This entry was posted on 9/9/2006 5:44 PM and is filed under uncategorized.
I have been thinking a lot
lately about what makes somebody happy.
There are so many answers, but only one truth I can think of. It makes us happy when things go as we
expect them to go. When reality matches
what we expect, we are happy. Simple as
that.
If we work hard and we are
rewarded, we get happier. If our
efforts are unnoticed we are less happy.
If we get a dog and the dog
loves us, does funny tricks and plays when we want to, we are very happy. When we come home and find that the dog ate
our shoes, or worse yet our couch, we are very angry.
If we buy software to make our
lives easier and it takes away some time burden, we get happy. Slow software or programs that are hard to
use make me livid. I think that is true
for most of us.
It is like that with our
families also. I guess that explains
why I am so happy with my wife. She is
perfect, and if she isn’t in some small way, she helps me change my expectations. I am always happy with her. What I expect I get, and then some.
We went away for a long weekend
to visit my dad. A few days away was
just the perfect getaway with my perfect life.
I expected a hassle traveling.
Air Tran performed flawlessly as a company. I was extremely pleased.
I expected things to be a bit
tough at home. I called Katie just
about every day. I wanted to hear that
something had gone wrong and it would be something I could fix from Florida. No problems popped up. I was worried that Kate would not be able to
spend enough time with Henry, but that didn’t happen. She talked to her little buddy while we were on the phone. He was gonna be just fine, and so was
Kate. I expected to be needed, but I
wasn’t. I should be used to that, bit in
this case, expectations out of sync with reality should have made me happy.
We got some other surprises when
we got home that didn’t match up to my expectations. They were big surprises.
I have told Kate that I don’t
remember her telling me that she loved us.
I was reminded recently that I was wrong. As I moved offices, I came across the folder of kid’s artwork.
This picture came from Kate a
few years ago. I would ask her to draw
me a picture for my office, and she would.
She would fill her pictures with red hearts and I Love You. I guess my expectation was that she would
always be my little girl. The reality
is that she does not need me any more.
I got another surprise. Things that you publish on My Space for the
whole world are not really for everybody to see. Sometimes, the expectation is that only your friends see what you
say. The reality is that words are
there for everybody to see. That old
saying about the pen being mightier than the sword is true. Sometimes words can pierce your heart,
especially when they were written without intending everybody to see it. Nobody is ever happy about that.
Tell me what makes you
happy. Or tells me what makes you
sad.
. Ajay.
, Eilene.
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